A Non WoPA friend

We Wives of Porn Addicts have found something amazing in our relationships together.

We share our deepest darkest secrets, our hopes and fears, our questions and answers. And these really REAL relationships are among my favorites. My dearest friends, the people I trust, and the people who make me feel like it's going to be OK.

But because the thing that brings us together is addiction, these relationships are sometimes (for me) heavy. We talk about all that's wrong in our lives and in the world, we wonder what else we can do, we hurt and ache and cry together. And I'm so glad. These relationships are something I so desperately need.

I often feel like I'm drowning in recovery. Meetings, and therapy, and group therapy, and his therapy, and friends, and all babysitting hours are spent focusing on The Problem and how to cope.

After spending the day with a close friend who knows nothing of our problems, and (to my knowledge) nothing of sexual addiction I am glad I have WoPA friends and non-WoPA friends.

The day was light and easy and care-free.
We talked about the kids in their developmental stages and the next big decisions in our lives.
New homes, new schools, new schedules for our families.
Updates on common friends and common experiences.
We broke up fights between our kids and wiped noses and fed little mouths.

We related in a common, easy, happy way.

And though I treasure my real, raw, honest relationships with all of you; it was nice to be reminded that there is a place for real, honest relationships with non WoPites too.